My Relationship with My Partner

We get asked the following by random people from the internet. I have rephrased the question to encompass variations of the questions we received:

I am a sexy hot catch physically, materialistically (rich) and mentally intelligent. Are you available for dating, be it casual or going steady?

A language is something that is entirely made up by society. It’s a bunch of sounds that are associated with shapes and assigned meanings to them. 

When you see or hear a word, you immediately recall an image of what that word represents. Therefore, everything associated with words is incredibly limited.

My relationship with Kissra is not a conventional relationship that can be represented with words; therefore, both of us use incredibly generic terms to represent it. Please do not let this fool you into thinking that we are not very close to each other or that we are looking to split up or anything like that.

If I am to use the language limited phraseology to express our relationship, it would be something like this:

Life is nothing but a venue to experience various exposures where you can participate; such exposures are one of the ways in order to focus awareness and have an observation of that focused awareness you have experienced.

Unlike popular beliefs, we as people in this reality are drawn to the opposite from what we are or more accurately, we are drawn to what we are not. The only thing keeping us from being free to experience what the essence desires is society with all its cultural rules, religions and all the rest of it.

Society imposed self-discipline is the sole inhibitor of expanded awareness and the discovery of, what I term, “The-Essence-Desires”. 

Relationships are a form of Society imposed self-discipline, and so is language; therefore, we (Kissra and myself) have moved beyond all of that.

Myself and Kissra have shattered Society imposed self-discipline and we can clearly see The-Essence-Desires in all its possibilities; and we are both drawn to it.

To answer the above question: I am a sexy hot catch physically, materialistically (rich) and mentally intelligent. Are you available for dating, be it casual or going steady?

Having one-night-stands or looking into how hot and sexy or how much money you have is a very limited experience that we both have moved away from eons ago. We are not single and also not attached. We are not looking for new partners or relationships but also open to having exposure to musing and reflections.

Simplifying to language-levels:

To simplify, myself and kissra are soulmates for eternity to the power of infinity and never enough. We are not available for one night stands. We are not available for boyfriend/girlfriend/marriage relationships. We do not meet random people from the internet for a good time.

Are we available? The answer is a YES and NO! If you think that you are different and can enrich our experiences by ways outside of society preaches, then make your presence known, to whomever you are drawn to; either Kissra, myself or both of us together. And as the saying goes, do not contact us, if you are different we will contact you!

If you are being picked-on, or feel your carrier is treating you unfairly, but can't leave them just yet

You can be picked-on (i.e. bullied, harassed or discriminated) using actions or comments that can hurt or isolate you in the workplace, due to factors often not in your control such as your race, color, religion, sex, gender, gender identity, nationality, age (often 40+), physical/mental disabilities, genetic information or your situation in general. This spans from creating and spreading malicious rumors, to withholding necessary information or communique you require to do your job efficiently. This abuse follows a common behavioral pattern that is used to offend, frustrate, belittle and humiliate the person. (more on this to come soon with examples)

If you fall victim to your carrier abuse but can't leave them due to reasons not in your control:

• You signed up to their Driver Training Program and must complete it or face financial penalties
• You have a tractor lease with your carrier and risk losing money invested or held up by the carrier like a security deposit or money the carrier deducts from miles driven and the amount is substantial that you don't want to risk losing it
• Any other reason that prevents you from leaving your abusive carrier immediately.

Once you determine you can no longer work out your issues with your carrier (see the article "How to recognize discrimination in the work force and what to do about it") and have made the decision to leave them as soon as your obligation with them ends; you must "do your time" in what I term "protectionist" mode, to minimize your damages and abuse. You will not be able to prevent damages and abuse unless you escalate the matter outside your carrier (i.e. legally, and you may choose to do so after your term with your carrier ends); but you can help reduce the damages in what I term "protectionist" mode.

Going into the "Protectionist" mode entails the following:

• Ask your carrier if you can reset at home instead of on the road. This will help you save money on expenses related to on-road resets.
• Minimize your communications with your carrier/dispatch, to absolute minimum; as you probably noticed, nothing good comes from talking to an abusive staff.
• Take what they give you in terms of trips, since it is pointless to ask for better lanes or what you prefer. A cruel carrier will intentionally sabotage your profitable lanes and will misinterpret your communications with them resulting in the worst outcome for you, an example, if you ask for longer mile trips, you'll end up losing money on excessive wait times and your income will not be much different from a shorter trip that gives you home time and less on the road expenses.

More on this will be coming soon, stay tuned.

The best of me is yet to come (under construction)

Sexuality your identity

The best people possess a feeling for beauty. The courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, be loyal and have the capacity for sacrifice. This is my definition of “grace and integrity”.

Be kind and full of love but have boundaries like a motherfucker. Relationships work best when two people have the same intention to grow together. Love the life you live and live the life you love. People today do a whole lot of explaining and not enough telling people to go fuck themselves. You cannot go beyond what you validate as truth.

The woman whom I love and admire, for her strength, grace and integrity did not get that way because shit worked out; she got that way because shit went wrong and she handled it. She handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days. 

I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be, but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see. But I am not one who lives for people’s expectations and I have absolutely no desire to fit in, because this is my life and that’s the only explanation you need. 

The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it. Resist it and your soul grows sick. Most people live for the image, they are projecting themselves as this or that. They end up wasting all their energy on conjuring up a facade. Accept no one’s definition of your life. Don’t let society dictate how you should live, define it yourself, and on that note, here is my story on sexuality.

Your future self is watching you right now through memories. There is no way I was born to pay bills and die. 

Fighting to have a society enshrined with “morals” is like screwing for virginity. Everything in the world is about sex except sex, where sex is mostly about power; so we make our own rules and playout our fantasies online being mindful of each other's boundaries, others around us and the laws.

Find your soulmate:

*Someone with integrity and grace. 

Remember, my definition of integrity and grace (outlined above in the first paragraph) is very different from the one society has you believe. Society defines integrity as someone with high moral values who conducts themselves in a predefined and predictable way by following what is deemed acceptable; and as long as they appear that way, then they are respectable people with integrity, regardless of what they are actually doing in private as long as it remains hidden from public view. However, if the private becomes public then integrity is lost! That's my definition of hypocrisy! Look at high profile figures who are respected like presidents, judges, police officers, priests...etc. all because their public persona is manufactured to appear a certain way. 

Realise the difference between Love and Sexuality:

*Love is something you experience with a genuine person who genuinely care for you. Sex is a personal need orchastrated by the brain and when played out, your body is satisfied. Love is required from your soulmate who genuinely cares for you and loves you with all your quirks. You can be yourself with love. Sex, is infatuation and animal instinct to satisfy a body need with anyone willing to play your brain madeup fantasies, love is not required with sex-urges.

Have a common vision and reach a compromise:

*Agree on a lifestyle and reach a compromise to define your limits and red lines.

Live it up and experience:

*Do the work and live the lifestyle fully experiencing the good, the bad and the ugly.

Communicate:

*Keep the lines of communication open and never cross your pre-set red lines and definitely never push boundaries! If the chemistry exists, boundaries will expand in a healthy direction.

Enjoy what you have and never compare:

*Be content and have fun with it. Make your fetish play a reality by nurturing each other and not by Comparing or taking risks. Remember it's a fetish play nothing more.

It all starts with you! First be truthful with yourself and partner about your likes and sexual needs. Second, understand your partners needs and boundaries. Third, reach a compromise or a middle line where both agree. Fourth, respect the boundaries and never try to push them yourself! If the chemistry is there the experience will scale in a healthy direction. Fifth, enjoy what you have and watch it get nurtured into a healthy aspect of your well being.

This article will continue to expand as I have time to update it. I wrote it because we believe that sexuality shouldn’t be taboo and it’s an important aspect of being healthy. Having the sex that is right for each person is, I wont say a right, but, in my opinion, something that we can come to expect. To be continued!

Footnote: Never believe what we post online! It’s all bullshit fantasies we play-out online. Nothing we post online or social media of all kinds is true. If you want to know the real us then follow our personal web sites and the blogs listed there. We share our fantasies online for anyone who might enjoy them. We do not swing and we don’t have an open relationship. We are not interested in your comments or suggestions. You can use our content and no need to tell us about it. Have fun and kick the shit ;)

How a "Long Haul Trucker" can choose a good transport company to work for

Are you struggling with your current company, or perhaps are in a toxic relationship and you just want out? Maybe you are new to the industry and not sure how to choose? Or you are afraid to lose seniority if you jump ship? If you answered yes to any of the above, then this article is for you!

First and foremost do NOT ask other drivers! Every transport company has what I term “Special-People” and “Disadvantaged-People”; and depending on who you ask, the info you get will not be accurate for your decision making. The Special-People will always have the cleanest runs trouble free with minimum wait times, correct trip-info and will practically drive, what I term straight lines,  do the job and come home for a nice reset, with the least cycle hours left on their elog. The Disadvantaged-People will get the problematic runs plagued with low miles with unpaid work, excessive wait times and incident prone lanes with costly resets often away from home.

Also, do NOT buy into the gimmick! All companies preach themselves to be the best in everything, the culture and all, respect...etc; and that might be true for the Special-People but not for everyone.

The heart of any trucking company would be its dispatch! Everything else is irrelevant. How dispatch [conducts business] is indicative of the views of upper management and all departments within the company.

It is imperative to understand what I term above [how dispatch conducts business]; this will become clear as you read on.

Are they a caring company treating it's drivers with dignity, caring and respect? What you need to be looking for is the single and most important value: INTEGRITY! Does this company conduct business with honor, honesty and ethics with it’s drivers? Do they believe in being transparent and trustworthy? Respecting the traditional "handshake" value system and earning their way in or they are selective in their treatment, they mislead, forceful and often vague as long as they're legally correct?

The company's integrity is based on how it's dispatch structured and how they conduct business. Ask recruiting to let you speak to the [supervisor] of the fleet(s) manager(s); then ask that supervisor for their pay structure specifically (1)breakdown, (2)waiting to find you loads, while on the road, (3)delays at customer's, (4)border/customs delays, (5)layover / on-the-road reset pay, (6)How they calculate paid trip miles (hub/odometer miles), (7)LTL pay, (8)assisted loading/unloading/lumper work and (9)if city work paid hourly (you are a long haul driver). If INTEGRITY exists this should be an easy question with a straightforward answer combined with a fair compensation to prevent abuse. However, if you hear "depends on the situation", "we balance things out" or similar vague statements then RUN! 

A company that has integrity will not hide behind veils and will define their pay structure clearly especially "wait times" be it (1)breakdown, (2)waiting to find you loads, while on the road, (3)delays at customer's, (4)border/customs delays, (5)layover / on-the-road reset pay, (6)How they calculate paid trip miles (hub/odometer miles), (7)LTL pay, (8)assisted loading/unloading/lumper work, and (9)if city work paid hourly (you are a long haul driver).

Never base your decision on the pay per mile alone; However, the above 9 pay points are "key!".

I would rather work for a company who pays less per mile but will compensate fairly for (1)breakdowns, (2)waiting to find me loads, while on the road, (3)delays at their customers, (4)border/customs delays, (5)layover / on-the-road reset pay, (6)Pay actual trip miles (hub/odometer miles), (7)LTL pay, (8)assisted loading/unloading/lumper work and (9)hourly paid city work (you are a long haul driver).

You can easily be abused and frustrated when you become a "Disadvantaged-Driver" in comparison to the "Special-People"; and the way you'll be abused is via the 9 points mentioned above. However, if the pay structure is fair in terms of these 9 mentioned points, at the very least you'll be compensated fairly for your work and wait times.

P.S. I will expand on this article in the summer weeks of year 2022 with examples and scenarios.

Sex workers rights

Human trafficking has become a meaningless term!

Politicians and activists often abuse it to push for moral panic and punitive laws. We constantly heard the word “victim”. People in power realized that they cannot criminalize victims, since one cannot be both a criminal and a victim at the same time.

Sex workers were saying that prostitution should not be criminalized under any circumstances because it is a form of exploitation. Many women are in positions of control in the sex industry and that this was a choice they had made. They were asking who we were “as a society” to impose something else on them. From my perspective, the role of the police is to ensure that this consent is real. They need to have the means to do that, and they do under the Criminal Code. Beyond that, this is none of our business. We certainly should not change the fact that people can, according to what they say, voluntarily choose to work in the sex trade and do so in safety.

Now, under new laws, there will be no exceptions. The purchase of sexual services will always be a criminal offense (even though the act in by itself is legal!); and the justification is always to use fear and pitch it as a form of humanitarianism to help save “Trafficked Victims”. The politicians are using sound bites and shocking stories about human trafficking, which are true, by the way, to try to tell us that making sex work illegal will address that. When in-fact certain provisions of the Criminal Code have a grossly disproportionate effect on persons who engage in prostitution by putting their health and safety at risk and making them more vulnerable to violence by taking away their safety net and making the whole industry go underground. Is that the same argument that we are hearing from the other side—that no one should trade sex for money, in order to protect children? Is that argument not indicative of the deception hidden in these laws? I think the politicians using children to justify a religious Conservative ideology, according to which it is wrong to pay for sex?

In other words the justification to make sex work illegal is to Simply put, we cannot condone this so-called industry for the benefit of those individuals who claim to freely choose it, because doing so would exacerbate the harm experienced by that vulnerable group who are most at risk of subjection to prostitution, and importantly, do not choose it. Like WAW, how stupid do you think a free thinking society is? Instead of tackling the problem from it's roots just take away our freedoms. So they are saying that they need to make prostitution illegal because it is too dangerous and poses too great a harm to those involved, the communities in which it is practiced, and society at large to entrench it as a form of work recognized by law

In other words prostitution laws recognizes that entrenching prostitution as a legitimate profession by facilitating it through decriminalization would result in more vulnerable persons being drawn into it. Politicians do not think this is the type of society to which we should aspire. My answer to that is who are you to tell me how to live. if adults who chose it, like to do it, it should be legal...DICTATED FREEDOMS ARE NOT FREEDOM! This legislation would drive the trade underground and put at risk the safety and security of those individuals. The politicians have failed to look at that point.

Consenting adults who chose to sell sexual services to other adults should be legal and not to be confused with exploited underage sex workers with few options for survival. If you want to talk about child exploitation then this is a big term and the approach should be geared towards focusing on social service help and not making the sex industry illegal and it's definitely not a law enforcement issue. Children and disadvantaged individuals exploitation is a big term taking many forms like child laborers in construction, agriculture, in ship yards and the steal industry...list goes on and on, children in military, children trained to shop lift, pan handling.....etc and sex work.

Unfortunately “Trafficking ” has become a new term for an age old problem which is largely a teenage runaway from abusive situations at home and who sell sex to survive; are considered “Trafficking” victims by default under many federal or state/province laws. This is despite hardly any teen runaways have pimps or traffickers. Most see sex work as the best way to support themselves on the street given the limited legal and social service options available for children who run away from home. And most of these runaways do not travel out of their town or city, much less out of the country. So in practice, “Trafficking” does not mean “modern-day-slavery”. Nor does it mean transported across borders for purpose of sexual exploitation. Instead it usually refers to one or more of the following: being under age selling sex, illegally immigrating, being subjected to any kind of forced labor or abusive labor practices, and now they added to the list “adults engaging in consensual sex work”. Do you see the problem here? A free thinker in a free society will never accept such mediocre hypocrisy nor do I. Freedom it either exists or it does not. Take away our freedoms by defining boundaries in which we can be free and you are no longer living in a free society!

Don't be ignorant by associating “Human Trafficking / Modern-day-slavery” with consensual sex work. Does forced prostitution exist? Yes off course. But the majority of cases prosecuted under the sex trafficking charges are very very rarely the case of forced prostitution. However, the media focus only on these cases thus making you believe that forced prostitution is a problem growing out of proportion.

The only thing I can see here when politicians and the media keep preaching the term “Human Trafficking / Modern-day-slavery” and associating it with sex work; They are using humanitarianism and heroism to push a religious conservative ideology being put in place dictating to the free society how things should be. This scheme has all the hallmarks of con-artists cheating the non-thinking ignorant people in order to justify new powers and boundaries being placed on the free society and condition people to accept the civil liberty trade-off and the illusion of security and piece of mind.

My future plans

My future plans include the RV lifestyle. Living in an RV and going to all kinds of places with it, is unique and appealing. Also traveling by motorcycle across provinces is a must. Perhaps buying a Jeep Wrangler and taking it mudding and cross country is another thing I must do. Whatever I embark on I will make sure to live it up from A to Z in order to get the full experience the good and the bad and everything in between.

I consider myself lucky to have found a Kindle spirit who tolerates waky adventures. She could say the same about me tolerating her waky ways, but truth to the matter is that we enjoy each other's​ wakiness if there is such a thing.

I am writing this blog as a time capsule for the future to see which of the lifestyles I lived and which were just crazy dreams that will not materialize.

Freedom it either exists or it doesn't!

When close minded people start bombarding me with hate emails about my views, specifically freedom of speech, I think if those people were truly enlightened they would ask for clarification before jumping to conclusions!

I will not conform to societies beliefs just because of peer pressure; people are afraid to stand up for what they believe in, they allow the few to dictate to the many. Instead, I will clarify my views more detail and keep in mind my journey is mine alone. I don't care what others say. I will not defend my beliefs to anyone. I will walk my own path and your approval is not needed!

Freedom exists or it doesn't! If you dictate boundaries then it's no longer freedom!

People should be allowed to publish articles expressing their personal views on sensitive subjects such as religions, holy characters...etc without fear of reprisal. Writing something that does not represent your views, but, instead convinces others to take action to hate, discriminate or directly harm another individual or group is not freedom of speech, it's a citation to violence and discrimination. There is a clear distinction here!!! This citation to violence and discrimination is seen all over the media in all parts of the world, also in religions, and between ethnic groups...etc.

Enough labeling, and belonging to groups! People should quit spreading their beliefs on others. Instead live your life the way you want and let others do same! There is no need to voice what you are, just say you are human living on planet Earth. Diversity in human race should be nurtured and without it life will not flourish!

An example of freedom of speech, is what I wrote in this article, I am expressing my views without cultivating or asking people to take action against any religion, culture or individual(s). Many people will not agree with me, but, that's part of living in a free society! The moment I start saying ban religions and lets kick out specific races...etc then it is no longer freedom of speech but rather a citation to violence and discrimination.

In conclusion, try this concept called thinking, don't be a hypocrite and stop being so politically correct because you are afraid!