Tuesday 17 September 2019

The best of me is yet to come (under construction)

Sexuality your identity

The best people possess a feeling for beauty. The courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, be loyal and have the capacity for sacrifice. This is my definition of “grace and integrity”.

Be kind and full of love but have boundaries like a motherfucker. Relationships work best when two people have the same intention to grow together. Love the life you live and live the life you love. People today do a whole lot of explaining and not enough telling people to go fuck themselves. You cannot go beyond what you validate as truth.

The woman whom I love and admire, for her strength, grace and integrity did not get that way because shit worked out; she got that way because shit went wrong and she handled it. She handled it in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days. 

I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be, but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see. But I am not one who lives for people’s expectations and I have absolutely no desire to fit in, because this is my life and that’s the only explanation you need. 

The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it. Resist it and your soul grows sick. Most people live for the image, they are projecting themselves as this or that. They end up wasting all their energy on conjuring up a facade. Accept no one’s definition of your life. Don’t let society dictate how you should live, define it yourself, and on that note, here is my story on sexuality.

Your future self is watching you right now through memories. There is no way I was born to pay bills and die. 

Fighting to have a society enshrined with “morals” is like screwing for virginity. Everything in the world is about sex except sex, where sex is mostly about power; so we make our own rules and playout our fantasies online being mindful of each other's boundaries, others around us and the laws.

Find your soulmate:
*Someone with integrity and grace. 
Remember, my definition of integrity and grace (outlined above in the first paragraph) is very different from the one society has you believe. Society defines integrity as someone with high moral values who conducts themselves in a predefined and predictable way by following what is deemed acceptable; and as long as they appear that way, then they are respectable people with integrity, regardless of what they are actually doing in private as long as it remains hidden from public view. However, if the private becomes public then integrity is lost! That's my definition of hypocrisy! Look at high profile figures who are respected like presidents, judges, police officers, priests...etc. all because their public persona is manufactured to appear a certain way. 

Realise the difference between Love and Sexuality:
*Love is something you experience with a genuine person who genuinely care for you. Sex is a personal need orchastrated by the brain and when played out, your body is satisfied. Love is required from your soulmate who genuinely cares for you and loves you with all your quirks. You can be yourself with love. Sex, is infatuation and animal instinct to satisfy a body need with anyone willing to play your brain madeup fantasies, love is not required with sex-urges.

Have a common vision and reach a compromise:
*Agree on a lifestyle and reach a compromise to define your limits and red lines.

Live it up and experience:
*Do the work and live the lifestyle fully experiencing the good, the bad and the ugly.

*Keep the lines of communication open and never cross your pre-set red lines and definitely never push boundaries! If the chemistry exists, boundaries will expand in a healthy direction.

Enjoy what you have and never compare:
*Be content and have fun with it. Make your fetish play a reality by nurturing each other and not by Comparing or taking risks. Remember it's a fetish play nothing more.

It all starts with you! First be truthful with yourself and partner about your likes and sexual needs. Second, understand your partners needs and boundaries. Third, reach a compromise or a middle line where both agree. Fourth, respect the boundaries and never try to push them yourself! If the chemistry is there the experience will scale in a healthy direction. Fifth, enjoy what you have and watch it get nurtured into a healthy aspect of your well being.

This article will continue to expand as I have time to update it. I wrote it because we believe that sexuality shouldn’t be taboo and it’s an important aspect of being healthy. Having the sex that is right for each person is, I wont say a right, but, in my opinion, something that we can come to expect. To be continued!

Footnote: Never believe what we post online! It’s all bullshit fantasies we play-out online. Nothing we post online or social media of all kinds is true. If you want to know the real us then follow our personal web sites and the blogs listed there. We share our fantasies online for anyone who might enjoy them. We do not swing and we don’t have an open relationship. We are not interested in your comments or suggestions. You can use our content and no need to tell us about it. Have fun and kick the shit ;)

Friday 16 August 2019

How a "Long Haul Trucker" can choose a good transport company to work for

Are you struggling with your current company, or perhaps are in a toxic relationship and you just want out? Maybe you are new to the industry and not sure how to choose? Or you are afraid to lose seniority if you jump ship? If you answered yes to any of the above, then this article is for you!

First and foremost do NOT ask other drivers! Every transport company has what I term “Special-People” and “Disadvantaged-People”; and depending on who you ask, the info you get will not be accurate for your decision making. The Special-People will always have the cleanest runs trouble free with minimum wait times, correct trip-info and will practically drive, what I term straight lines,  do the job and come home for a nice reset, with the least cycle hours left on their elog. The Disadvantaged-People will get the problematic runs plagued with low miles with unpaid work, excessive wait times and incident prone lanes with costly resets often away from home.

Also, do NOT buy into the gimmick! All companies preach themselves to be the best in everything, the culture and all, respect...etc; and that might be true for the Special-People but not for everyone.

The heart of any trucking company would be its dispatch! Everything else is irrelevant. How dispatch [conducts business] is indicative of the views of upper management and all departments within the company.

It is imperative to understand what I term above [how dispatch conducts business]; this will become clear as you read on.

Are they a caring company treating it's drivers with dignity, caring and respect? What you need to be looking for is the single and most important value: INTEGRITY! Does this company conduct business with honor, honesty and ethics with it’s drivers? Do they believe in being transparent and trustworthy? Respecting the traditional "handshake" value system and earning their way in or they are selective in their treatment, they mislead, forceful and often vague as long as they're legally correct?

The company's integrity is based on how it's dispatch structured and how they conduct business. Ask recruiting to let you speak to the [supervisor] of the fleet(s) manager(s); then ask that supervisor for their pay structure specifically (1)breakdown, (2)waiting to find you loads, while on the road, (3)delays at customer's, (4)border/customs delays, (5)layover / on-the-road reset pay, (6)How they calculate paid trip miles (hub/odometer miles), (7)LTL pay, (8)assisted loading/unloading/lumper work and (9)if city work paid hourly (you are a long haul driver). If INTEGRITY exists this should be an easy question with a straightforward answer combined with a fair compensation to prevent abuse. However, if you hear "depends on the situation", "we balance things out" or similar vague statements then RUN! 

A company that has integrity will not hide behind veils and will define their pay structure clearly especially "wait times" be it (1)breakdown, (2)waiting to find you loads, while on the road, (3)delays at customer's, (4)border/customs delays, (5)layover / on-the-road reset pay, (6)How they calculate paid trip miles (hub/odometer miles), (7)LTL pay, (8)assisted loading/unloading/lumper work, and (9)if city work paid hourly (you are a long haul driver).

Never base your decision on the pay per mile alone; However, the above 9 pay points are "key!".

I would rather work for a company who pays less per mile but will compensate fairly for (1)breakdowns, (2)waiting to find me loads, while on the road, (3)delays at their customers, (4)border/customs delays, (5)layover / on-the-road reset pay, (6)Pay actual trip miles (hub/odometer miles), (7)LTL pay, (8)assisted loading/unloading/lumper work and (9)hourly paid city work (you are a long haul driver).

You can easily be abused and frustrated when you become a "Disadvantaged-Driver" in comparison to the "Special-People"; and the way you'll be abused is via the 9 points mentioned above. However, if the pay structure is fair in terms of these 9 mentioned points, at the very least you'll be compensated fairly for your work and wait times.

P.S. I will expand on this article in the summer weeks of year 2022 with examples and scenarios.